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What Clients Say

What Clients say about working with the Relationship Specialist

I have had the joyful experience of  witnessing some amazing results over the years whilst working with couples who came to me feeling they didn’t know how to repair their relationships.

Here are some of their stories below. Names have changed in some circumstances to respect confidentiality.

I hope they give you some insight about working with me. If you have any questions do contact me.

Wendy

Amelia & Jason

” We are getting back to working together as a partnership”

Before starting to work with Wendy, our situation was unbearable. We were constantly arguing and finding fault. We were both only interested in what was important to ourselves, never giving the other person and value in the relationship.”

Jason admitted he didn’t like discussing personal issues publicly or with someone he doesn’t know. However as a result of working with me, they said  –

” We are getting our relationship back onto a more even keel, getting back to working together as a partnership, rather than at odds – going separate ways. “

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J. Farnham

“Having that difficult conversation and it was the best thing I could have done”

“When I heard Wendy had experience of coaching people who need to have difficult conversations, I realised that I did in fact need to have a difficult conversation with someone, but had been putting it off, hoping things would improve, but then get angry that they weren’t improving – and didn’t seem likely to if I remained silent.

So, I had a session with Wendy where we explored the reasons why I was putting off this conversation and what was happening to my feelings about that relationship.

Wendy is very compassionate to work with and I know I could trust her to be sincere and honest with her advice. She helped me to step back and realise that this situation was not normal and that I was justified in feeling hurt. She also encouraged me to face to to the fact that I had two options – say something or end the relationship – and then to realise how I would feel about either outcome.

So I took her challenge, had that difficult conversation and it was the best thing I could have done. It wasn’t easy, but I knew I had made myself accountable to Wendy, and she would want to know the outcome. Working with Wendy has encouraged me to be more assertive i standing up for what I believe and I feel so much better for it – and that was only one session!  -Thank you Wendy.”  

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Ann & James

”  We realise where we are going wrong, and feel  we have benefitted from working with you “

Ann and James were constantly arguing, and wondered whether they could even stay together as it was so stressful. The arguments included calling each other names, which each found upsetting. They were also concerned about the effect it was having on their children.

 We just couldn’t get on with one another, it was awful”.

I spent time listening to each of them, finding out what their concerns were. Like so many couples they were feeling hurt and upset, and so this led to them lashing out at each other in order to defend their corner. I helped them to really listen to each other, instead of assuming they knew what the other was about to say.

At the start they said they felt nervous as to the outcome, and how comfortable and open they could be. They realise what they have learned needs to be put into practise, but they are happier and more able to negotiate with each other.

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What Clients Say

Jane and Peter

” We  feel able to talk to each other and verbalise our feelings better.”

This couple came to me after Peter had been drawn to someone outside of their relationship, and understandably Jane felt betrayed. We explored the reasons this had happened, and working together we got to the root of the problem. Before working with me they said –

” There was bad communication between us, and we lacked understanding of each other. This culminated in the breakdown of the relationship.”

They had some reservations before working with me, ” wondering how the process would work”. However, at the end they said

” We  feel able to talk to each other and verbalise our feelings better.”

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Gary and Emily

This couple felt that there was little that could be achieved from working with me, and felt their relationship was close to ending.

“We gained a greater understanding of ourselves and each other, recognising flaws, and talking to each other, instead of arguing.”

Before starting working with Wendy, there was no proper communication in our relationship, which was almost over. Nervous about seeing Wendy, having seen professionals in the past, that had no effect, I probably not expecting much. During the process, pretty much something new was unravelled, discovered and explored, which made it an enlightening  journey. As a result, we gained a greater understanding of ourselves and each other, recognising flaws, and talking to each other, instead of arguing.”Problem relationships

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Peter and Grace

This couple were quite anxious about working with me, however once they realized I was not going to take sides or blame either of them, we made some great progress.

 “It enabled us both to look at, and consider issues, and each other’s view points in a way that we hadn’t been able to do before”

“Despite initial reservations about working with Wendy, as neither of us had any experience of working with a professional before, we found the whole process very helpful; and it enabled us both to look at, and consider issues, and each other’s view points in a way that we hadn’t been able to do before. Overall we found it to be a very positive experience.”

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Amy and James

Amy and James were still adjusting to each other and their relationship. They had experienced many changes in a short space of time, and were struggling with those changes. They were desperate to make their relationship work better,  as you can see from what they said below.

” We have been able to go from strength to strength and love and respect each other once again”

” I would like to thank you for assisting my husband and I to resolve some very difficult issues we experienced in the early years of our marriage that we were struggling to overcome on our own. It really helped us to talk to each other again in a controlled and civil fashion, and not get cross with each other. We are especially thankful to you for going the extra mile to fit in around our child care issues. We have been able to go from strength to strength and love and respect each other once again. I feel certain the help you provided us will stand us in very good stead for many more years of a happy marriage.”